I think he made a good point about the difference between people who are successful in ways beyond their "dad bod" (like Leonardo d) and those whose mediocrity is more than just their bod but their lifestyle. I've known great people who don't work out, but a lot of lazies too. I find my bf very attractive for his discipline and the body he sculpted with it. He's just a very disciplined dude in both fitness and study (but knows how to relax). He sticks to things and prioritizes health & a positive outlook.

I think I am not only attracted to the physical aspect, but the conceptual aspect of fit men because they have demonstrated their ability to focus and take care of themselves consistently. That shows goal setting, discipline, self care, right away. Its more than just the look. It's a sign of other habits. Dadbods can still have those qualities in other ways, its just harder to immediately separate from those who don't with the same body type. Fit guy walks into the room, you know right away. Doesnt have to be gym rat. Maybe he just hikes/bikes a lot whatever. Sexy discipline is sexy, and given the person is also disciplined in other ways they are likely well read and have their shit together. I've dated dad bods. Many were smart or great conversationalists, and some were undisciplined/lazy though. Or, medium smart and the type to talk up goals they weren't actually trying for. I work my ass off, when I was single i was looking for someone who also understood that and applied it.

I've known a lot of lazy brilliant people, and even just vain lazy stupid people. Lazy smart only carries you thru high school. There is nothing as attractive to me as a relationship where you can push and reinforce discipline in one another, optimism and self betterment. (Talk about turn ons, libido is out of the goddamn stratosphere)

Tldr: fit men have immediately apparent physical manifestation of other qualities beyond attractiveness, including discipline, self care and goal setting. Dad bods are harder to separate out those qualities right away. Not saying all fit dudes are "perfect" just that to me it is more likely probability they have their shit together and as someone with a lot of my own goals that is about a million times more attractive. I've dated dad bods, many were nice/smart but a lot were lazy or undisciplined too. In my anecdotal experience there is correlation of fitness and general life discipline. I want someone disciplined so that we support one another.

I got carried away here. Anyway just wanted to share my 2 cents. Thanks for the vid, had a lot of good moments.