I'll reply to the points you made just because I think that will be easier.

a) that was the question I was most worried about to be honest, and in hindsight, i do see how i was making some generalisations - although that really wasn't my intention at all. but, i guess i was just asking if those who HAVE had it (phallo) done, did generally enjoy it overall. maybe asking 'specifics' was inappropriate. but again, i did expect that.

b) that's... not really something i want to answer, tbh. and i feel bad for not wanting to, but a lot of the reasons i end up writing something i just because i want to. that's a pretty shitty answer and i know that. i want to be writing it for the right reasons - but, i'm not trans (obviously. cis-female/ace), and i can see why minority groups need to tell their own stories. because people like me go and stuff them up... but that's why i'm asking all of these questions - even if some of them were inappropriate, because i don't want to stuff it up.

c) i'm a compulsive apologiser. and, i know that some of them were inappropriate, but... they were ones i wanted to know the answer to, so i saw no other way of getting those answers than just asking. i just didn't really want to offend anyone in the process or come off as rude/arrogant/deserving of such answers. because i don't think i am - i'm asking about strangers' personal lives and one would assume that's not typically something you share online (but alas, i'm incredibly thankful for those that do).

but thank you for response, really. i do often need people to tell me where i'm wrong/call me out on my shit haha.