I'm really sorry that he treats you like this. It's not right. I can empathise with you. I've often told my SO (who's a messy, dirty, but improving JustYes) that he seems to value his time more than mine. This gets my mind running in an obsessive loop: lack of respect, misogyny, hierarchy, power, and a whole slew of other stuff. All because he used to not do his share of the housework. It's maddening.

Just a thought: what if you worked in a café or a library? Could you not physically being at home make it click for him? This could be a temporary thing, because of course you have every right to work from the comfort of your own home!

Work is work, and you have just one job which provides income. You could be working remotely for a tech startup from an aquarium, but that doesn't mean you're going to spend your lunch hour underwater with the dolphins. It's a terrible analogy but it's really late here and I feel angry on your behalf.