To put it simply: looks attract, and personality keeps.

When I was heavier, I went on dates with relatively fit guys and I dated an athletic trainer for a while who was very clearly in shape and worked out. I worked out too, I just didn't outrun my fork.

Weight was never a problem, and it won't be a problem unless you make it one.

But the FA movement, no matter how much they want to claim they are secure as ever with their looks, create images like this, and send messages like this, because they are defensive about something that wouldn't be a problem if they didn't focus on it as much as they do.

Perhaps it's not their looks, or their weight, that is the core of the problem in their dating lives.