Sex 3-4 times a week, cuddling every morning, evening and at night before bed, multiple kisses & hugs every day, multiple "I love you"s, occasional sexting, multiple messages and phone calls every single day, some light teasing and tickling most of the time.
Me (HLM 28) and my partner (MLM 32) have been together for 10 years and we still manage to maintain a schedule like the above every week. His desire is slightly lower than mine and it takes a bit of a dive in the winter but it's not that bad. Mine is quite high - it never really went down compared to my teenage years.
We had a temporary slowdown several months ago and we ended up having no sex for 2 weeks for no apparent reason, I had come across this forum by chance and I was terrified that I'd have a horror story of my own now. Had the Talk, he immediately saw that I was suffering and corrected himself quite quickly and without unnecessary drama. He now initiates on his own so I don't have to initiate myself every single time like I used to, he's no longer pushing my hands away, the new thing is that we now take advantage of morning woodies in bed or by sharing a shower right after waking up before going to work, which is a great way to start the day. Helps us both be in a better mood for the entire day, especially him if he would otherwise be slightly depressed.
Our Talk was successful because we both went out of our comfort zones in a big way. Told him I want sex every day, he told me he doesn't want sex every day. Got into a bit of an argument, he asked me what it is exactly that I want. I was quite embarrassed but I had to articulate it as overtly and explicitly as possible. So I did - told him "I want you to fuck me". Which he did, nicely.
The truth is I'd been assuming that he knows what I want and need, we've known each other since forever so he should be able to guess pretty easily what I want, but that was completely wrong and unfair of me to assume. I quickly realized that it's not right of me to abdicate from my responsibility to communicate fully and openly about my own needs.
He doesn't get hints. But when I started telling him simply and clearly exactly what I would like, he started responding quite quickly and reliably. Turns out I had harboured a destructive idea about expecting him to just know what I want and that I didn't really have to tell him directly, but I quickly realized that it's stupid, wrong and unfair of me to frame our communication in that way. So I reluctantly but decisively let go of this idea and I successfully overcome my shyness and embarrassment so I can tell him exactly what is on my mind in one simple direct sentence. At first I felt like I'm being crude and vulgar, but that's just nonsense, my bf of 10 years is happy and eager to oblige me as long as I manage to say it out loud in a plain and simple way. I still have the instinctive feeling that I shouldn't have to tell him but he should already know, but then I remind myself that this feeling is stupid, wrong and doesn't serve us and I must not act on such silly feelings if I am to have a happy life. I was quite surprised how open and willing he is to take care of my needs once I started communicating with a simple basic sentence said aloud instead of throwing multiple hints and panicking when he doesn't respond the way I'd prefer. No matter how well they know you, people still can't read your mind. Who would have known?
Right now we have it all and nothing is missing. Not sure what I'm doing here really, usually I lurk but this time decided to share my little success story to show that sometimes, it can be as simple as opening your mouth and saying the words. Don't attack or argue, don't try to score points or have the best smart-ass comeback, all you need to do is speak clearly and in a simple way that will ensure that no misunderstanding is possible. Better to go through a momentary wave of embarrassment and shyness than waiting for your brain to start catastrophizing due to misleading feelings born out of fantasy and speculation.