I appreciate your bravery in confronting this head on. I have recently decided to do the same- The societal narrative that men do not get sexually abused or are at fault if they do. I realized part of the reason I have a hard time talking about my abuse growing up, which I have only recently begun to come to terms with, is that it was at the hand of my own father. When you look up incest online, they only ever talk about father daughter, or rarely mother son. Even my therapist had a hard time accepting it. I even showed her some of the pictures I found in my fathers photo box that were clearly of an underage me... very explicit. But she asked me for the context anyway, as did everyone who I told about or showed my evidence. And then my wife said- seriously- would anyone have asked for that context if that picture was of a little girl? I literally grew up in a culture where my situation- creepy molesty handsy grabby dont tell anyone parents and uncles- were a punchline. We were the epitome of rap song insults. We were a shame that was never to be spoken and only swept under the rug. Im sick of holding this shit inside because it makes the rest of the world uncomfortable to think that my father is a monster that sexually molested his own son our entire childhood. Im so sick of the idea that somehow WE should be the ones ashamed of this.