You're not wrong per se, but is this the kind of relationship anyone aspires for? To be forced into arbitrary contracts over things that really are not that big a deal. I mean, if you look at the statistics, most couples have children at some point in their life, barring infertility issues and illness, of course. But, the vast majority of men and women go for at least one child in their life. So, this obsession with them having children is just insane and, imo, unjustifiable.

I know reddit may change your perception, but the majority of people are not childfree and do want children at some point. So, what is the point of this obsession?

Also, OP mentioned in her first post that she is in her mid-20s, meaning she still has a lot of time for conception. She's not at the tail end of her fertile years and she can absolutely afford to wait a few years while she wraps up her pHD and maybe gets a career started. Most people are having children in their late 20s anyway.

This is such a non-issue. For crying out loud, I know female doctors who married mid-residency (which means they would be in their mid-to-late 20s) and are having kids and holding down very stressful medical careers. It's all about the support your receive, especially from their husbands. These women I talked about have one thing in common and that is that their husbands are very supportive of them.

If the parents and their son are so obssessed with having children, why did they go after a career woman who made it clear that she is at the stage of her life where her education is more important than having children? There are tonnes of women out there who aspire to be stay at home moms (nothing wrong with that). Why didn't they go after someone like that?

I mean, let's be realistic and pragmatic for a second. If I really wanted kids within a couple of years of marriage, I wouldn't go after a woman who is balls deep in her education or starting a career and try to derail her life plans with children. I could either choose to wait for her to be ready if I really want to marry her, or I would go after someone who has finished their education / settled down (even if late 20s, that's normal these days) or someone who doesn't care for furthering their education (nothing wrong with that btw).

I will end this on a humorous by quoting something from the famous comedian Chris Rock: "Relationships are like farts. If you're going to force it, it's probably shit".