I am "LLM" in a relationship ("HLF"). Identify many of the comments and reactions, feelings expressed here.

Having not known this was a thing until confronted with it in my current relationship, it has been a tough one to get a handle on. For both of us from our differing perspectives. I have issues with D-AA and childhood trauma which sort of compound the situation (not sure how this sounds btw).

I feel rotten to be such a 'package' to someone who has done nothing but stick by me while I rummage around in my own issues. Ultimately leaving her to suffer a DB while I am "the way I am".

This lack of physical intimacy, which has become so much the sticking point of our relationship now, seems built into issues I have with attachment and intimacy and something I can't just put down to "attracted" / "not attracted". Having said this, any "this is just the way I am" type reasoning of our situation is of no real help is it?