I don’t think I could disagree more. I have a perfect example. I met two kind, generous, very attractive, and successful men who I got along with and both seemed super into me. I went on a few dates with them, and despite both of them being awesome, it was very clear that one was more compatible with me. He understood me intuitively without me needing to explain myself - almost psychic at times. His emotional nature is more quiet and reserved, whereas the other guy was more of the life of the party, and I realized I like a more introverted and passive partner. The other guy was great too, but we had fewer levels of compatibility. I looked way more forward to spending a life with one than the other. It wasn’t a “me” problem not to think both we’re equally good for me. One was clearly a better fit.