Most of us who are open to that are very reluctant to come out and say it, because we know it’s a very easy way to get messed around by a manipulative person who is looking to use a pregnancy as a way to lock you down or force a living arrangement that is unfair.

I’ll admit I am not open about my desires with women I don’t know. I’ve been burned—hard—in the past. Some women are very, very entitled. I can’t afford to be open like that.

What I’m saying is that maybe you don’t know the whole story because it’s not exactly a topic men who are serious about this kind of thing are going to be comfortable getting into with until knowing you well.

“Have and don’t want more” was my standard kids status on OLD. It’s not true exactly but I do not want to attract someone who views my bank account and wallet as a ticket to a SAHM lifestyle.