What is disgusting to you? Having the parameters of your core relationship being run by another person? I agree. That is totally disgusting. Disgusting on so many levels. Suggesting trauma could be “elevated” to infidelity? Agree completely. I cannot imagine anyone using such words.

What I think you are saying is that rape survivors should allow their rapist to come between them and their loved ones. That disgusts me to the core.

Perhaps you are saying that a rapist coming between loved ones is not a breach of that relationship. That is just unrealistic. It may not be possible to change, due to the trauma, but that breach is an undeniable part of the trauma itself. No one is glorifying this, everyone believes in working past this. But it is a thing, and it tears people apart. Good people. Loving, caring people. It is often a thing people can’t get past. Disgusting fact, but a fact just the same.