For both of you: I delete whatever I feel isn't helpful or productive to the topic, and sniping between a couple posters who disagree isn't productive and wastes everyone's time. As does relationship advice from someone who is not in a relationship, admittedly hates people and socializing with same, and who brings up your past trauma in every. Single. Discussion which isn't going your way, most especially in those threads which aren't about sexual trauma and aren't about you. That's one way to earn karma, by trolling for attention and sympathy at every opportunity, but you might just consider the idea that you aren't the only person who has experienced something awful, but most people have the common courtesy to allow others to converse and share without making them responsible for your issues.

As for you, ughthatguy, you just keep on infantilizing your wife 6 days per week then demanding she service you like a woman on Saturday, then wondering why she struggles with the transition.

If either of you ever get out of your own head and consider that others not only don't share your peculiar life experience but also wish to hear from those who have actually changed things for the better, if either of you ever realize that the happiness of others in no way infringes on your personal chance at it, you'll have something to contribute. But for now, you have the reputation as a self-absorbed and obsessive crazy cat lady and a repetitive old man who uses this place for nothing but to take put his frustration on others.

You're both self-absorbed blowhards who love to hear yourselves talk and revel in the misery of others. Attitudes like yours are what keeps this place poisonous, because people like you can't stand to see growth and optimism in others. You want everyone to feel as rejected, lonely, and unfulfilled as you do on your worst day. Even the woman haters lean towards improvement and a healthier, happier future.

I'd like to thank you both, not for the full-court downvote press, but for showing me how to recognize misery and avoid people who get off on bringing others down to their level.