I found out long ago that if my nipples are gently sucked I can touch myself and climax pretty fast. Every woman is different of course, but this is pretty much how I finish. I would like to find other ways and really want to climax before or with him. I’ve been very close but he doesn’t last real long either. I did tell him I need to get off too and ever since he has made that a big deal and has lovingly obliged. The first thing is to know what will get you off, then communicating it to your partner and hope that they care enough to do that for you. I’m willing to explore other ways in the future, but I always get so worked up during sex that this method works in just a few minutes. Don’t be ashamed to get it done yourself with their help. They appreciate it honestly. And yes, it’s frustrating for women when all the blood rushes down there and we don’t get to orgasm. Somedays I’m truly tired and tell him I don’t need to come. Most times though, I get so turned on by him that I want to. It took me a little while to be able to ask for what works for me, but now that I have it’s been great for both of us.